Alana Landsberry
It is a truth universally acknowledged, that women are unstoppable, invincible and we can do it all… maybe just not all at once.
Sometimes it comes down to not having enough time, says actor Ada Nicodemou who admits she wishes there were 36 hours in a day. “I have a tendency to over schedule,” she tells New Idea.
“I’m also not very good at asking for help, but I am getting better at saying ‘no’ and setting boundaries,” the Home and Away star adds.
Balancing responsibilities at home with a career and family can be challenging, but it is possible to find happiness and fulfilment in the process.
“I struggle with having things on at night [for work], but a new outfit helps, and I get ready with a glass of wine to get in the mood,” Ada tells. “And I know once I’m there I’ll have a great time.”
Keeping everything in perspective helps the devoted mum-of-one stay on track, too.
“My mantra nowadays is that I ‘don’t sweat the small stuff’. And I’ve learned to prioritise what’s important.”
Feel like making some changes? Here are five tips to help you find more happiness as you handle the juggle that is life.
1. Release the need to be perfect
Sometimes getting things done is more important than doing them perfectly. Women are more likely than men to be perfectionists, which can hold us back in many ways, from applying for a job to our appearance to having everything in the home ‘just right’.
It’s helpful to understand that perfection is an unrealistic standard that can lead to stress and burnout. Instead, aim for ‘good enough’ and progress. Accept that mistakes are a part of life, and they provide valuable learning experiences.
Practice self-compassion here too. Be kind to yourself and treat yourself with the same level of care and understanding that you offer to others.
2. Learn to say ‘no’ and set boundaries
Many of us feel guilty saying no to things, as though we are letting someone down. But it is OK to say no when you’re feeling overwhelmed. Overcommitting can lead to stress and diminish your ability to get anything done.
Try to set clear boundaries between work and personal life. Create dedicated time for family, self-care, and relaxation. Communicate these boundaries to your employer, family, and friends so they understand your limitations.
3. Remember what’s important
Think about what’s important to you in your own life. Reflect on your values and priorities and identify what truly matters to you in your career, family, and personal life. Focus your time and energy on these key areas.
Create a vision for your life that aligns with your priorities. This can help you make decisions that support your long-term goals and happiness.
4. Delegate and seek support
Truthfully, no one person can do it all, whether that’s at home or at work. So don’t be afraid to delegate tasks. Share responsibilities with your partner, children, or other family members. Enlist their help in household chores and childcare.
You could also consider hiring help or using support systems such as childcare services, house cleaning, or meal delivery when needed. Your wellbeing is worth it.
5. Practice self-care and mindfulness
Regular self-care is essential for maintaining happiness and overall wellbeing. Dedicate time to activities that recharge you, whether it’s reading, exercise, meditation, or spending time with loved ones.
Practice mindfulness to stay present in the moment and reduce stress. Mindfulness techniques, such as deep breathing or meditation, can help you manage overwhelming emotions and stay grounded.
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